Ulosophy

I want to talk to "you" who are reading this about a concept that is so powerful beyond belief but so simple you wont even try it, well at least most people wont. Have you ever had a bad day? Most likely the answer is yes. Have you ever cried because of someone who dissapointed you? Again most likely the answer is a yes. "Other people" ...at times we love them so much but at other times we hate them to death. And those negative emotions can come from a variety of reasons. And the "reasons" are not  why we are here today about to talk about, were here to talk about the actual demon behind the reasons. If your thinking emotion... you are quite close. The bottom line . Where the rubber meets the road when it comes to other people making us feel negative emotions is that its actually not the people at all

No matter how much you may say, "but you don't understand the actual reason is him or her" bottom line the finger is always pointed at you this is not a post about personal  responsibility

all though they are related this post is about emotion, don't worry the actual "personal responsibility post will be coming soon and I guarantee you that you don't want to miss it, anyway back to "emotion"

The finger is always pointed to you whether you like it or not. Have you ever heard the saying "we see in others what is in us"? I'm sure you have if you haven't... you are welcome because that is a phrase everyone must not only hear but "know" we are human bodies or human beings which ever you like best, that are filled, flooded with emotion, good and bad, some of us have more bad than good and others are just surrounded by negative emotion, what ever your major on emotion is whether is good or bad, your major is basically what you will always see not only on your life events but the people you come across with. That means that whatever reaction you may notice in other people that reaction is actually in you if it wasn't how would you know is bad, but here is where it gets much much stranger the angrier or saddened or down you react to other people actually means that you yourself have actually offended in that same way to other people, I know its a mind twister so let me give you an example.

Joe is told by his boss that he is gonna give a promotion to Joe because business is going well and they can use a smart guy like Joe in the upper ranks. He is told that by the end of the quarter he will get it. So Joe gets "excited" "enthusiastic" "appreciated" etc. The end of the quarter comes and Joe does not get promoted, his boss explains business went down this quarter way lower than than expected. Now Joe starts to feel very negative emotions, anger, grief, disappointed, unappreciated etc. If there was a scale of negative emotion from one to ten Joe is feeling a ten. Now here is the strange thing whether the boss was telling the truth or not is really irrelevant whether the boss really wanted him for the job or not is irrelevant that has no effect on Joe in reality

The only reason Joe feels angry is because he has actually made other people angry himself, the reason he feels disappointed and unappreciated is really because he has dissapointed and made people feel unappreciated himself. The bigger the negative emotion means the more times we ourselves have actually caused people to feel that exact same way or we have lied or broken a commitment if that is the reason one feels bad. The reason is really a deep subconscious reason

That reason is "justification" you see at one point Joe broke a commitment by promising  something to somebody and ended up breaking it, Joe deep inside knows that was bad and that is not the right thing to do so he feels guilty for doing such an act now if Joe doesn't resolve this which is very very easy to do which I will teach you guys in the future Joe will have this experience almost like glued onto him and every time and anytime a similar experience happens to him that past experience will trigger and if he's on the receiving side he will react negatively not because of what happened at that moment but because of what happen long ago when Joe made someone else feel that negative emotion. Joe is trying to justify his behavior from long ago, aren't humans good in nature? Of course they are. So how is it that we can benefit from this?

Very simple, let's look at our actions first and second let's realise that it's really our fault and lets take the responsibility, in the long run and with time it will clear all the negative actions from us. Let's not be so harsh on other people, you don't have to be now that you know the root cause for why you are noticing the reaction, lets also work on ourselves everyday so we may bring our negative ball of energy lower and bring our positive ball of energy higher.

This all takes time, but what real good thing doesn't take time? Not many, time is a cleansing of our soul and can also be a tear to it if we don't make the decision to constantly grow. I once read a book. It was a book that change my life and how fortunate was I to have the opportunity to be introduced to such a great book at such a young age as it happened to me.

That book was from Dale Carnegie called How To Win Friends and Influence People, that book was written in the early 20s but the principles themselves and what they surround still exist today. But anyway in that book the concepts were related to dealing with people and Dale Carnegie made a great statement in that book and that statement was this. "We are not logical creatures, were emotional creatures" and of course I'm paraphrasing but you get the meaning.

And that is just so so true, at times there are people who want to give us advice in a very logical way and most of the time that logical advice works, we just don't apply it at times. Not because were stupid or such but because we are "emotional" creatures not logical. The more you realise this little sole fact the more you will have more successful relationships in all angles.

And with this I will end this post and that is this, whatever we see in our outside is really all in us, are you jealous? Are you angry? Are you greedy? Well if you know exactly what jealousy anger and greed is then it is in you . The real question is in what degree? we all have overarching to some degree that is why we have made the no one is perfect ideology so noticeable in our lives. But just like I said to what degree? The goal is to decrease the negative and increase the positive and then your life will become magical not because your outside is different but because your inside is. Have a great day love you guys, and ill see YOU at the top.